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The findings? For the most part, the answers confirmed what science has already been known (people cheat because they're dissatisfied with the relationship, they feel neglected, are angry, or have the hots for someone else). But the questionnaire did reveal other reasons, too. Here's what some people admitted:
"I had not fallen in love with my partner."
"I was not very committed."
"I wanted to enhance my popularity"
" I Want a Greater Variety of Sexual Partners. "
" I was drunk and not thinking clearly. "
Why does this matter? Well, it means that it's more than just about the love (or lack thereof) between a couple. It might be more of a problem or not-so-good situation they got themselves into. (1945) Vanderpump Rules . "It would be a mistake to have all affairs (and infidelity-related behaviors). ) "the authors write."
So what other things? factors make a difference? People who were less conscious were more likely to cheat, as they were "insecure attachment." Feeling insecure in a relationship is a recipe for unhappiness, and feels more secure. What's more, people who will not be able to solve their self-esteem a boost. (Yes, it's a hard truth.)
The search results are back to normal. Men are in it for the sexual desire. Women Step Out Because They Feel Their Needs in the Relationship.
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If you've been cheated on, you're probably replaying "What went wrong" in your relationship. Talk to your partner. It's the only way to understand if there's a hole in the relationship worth repairing-or not. It's a hard (and awkward) convo, sure, but it's one that needs to happen.